If you’ve ever looked up negotiation strategies, you’ve likely encountered countless recommendations that emphasize understanding your strengths, recognizing your weaknesses, and grasping the goals of the other side. Common advice centers around ensuring you know your fallback position if negotiations don’t pan out. However, a pivotal aspect that often goes unnoticed is the power of silence.
A groundbreaking study spearheaded by Jared Curhan from MIT Sloan School of Management, in conjunction with scholars from institutions such as Melbourne Business School and Shanghai Tech University, highlights the potency of silent pauses during negotiations. Their findings reveal that these pauses can bolster the results of a negotiation, benefiting both participants.
Negotiators, when faced with complex queries or remarks, frequently believe that an instant response is imperative. The fear is that hesitation may be perceived as a sign of vulnerability or a potential interruption to the flow of discussion. However, Curhan and his team argue the opposite. According to their research, strategic moments of silence pave the way for a more thoughtful mindset, moving away from a rigid viewpoint and prompting negotiators to spot opportunities that can be advantageous to both sides.
Their research, titled “Silence is golden: Extended silence, deliberative mindset, and value creation in negotiation,” is set to be published in the Journal of Applied Psychology. This research comprises four distinct studies. The initial study observed how silence naturally plays out in negotiations. Through simulations, participants were placed in roles such as candidate or recruiter and were tasked with discussing an employment compensation package. Analyzing silent intervals of a minimum of three seconds, the researchers identified that these quiet moments often led to pivotal breakthroughs in the negotiation process.
In subsequent experiments, the team delved into the intentional use of silence as a negotiation tactic. Here, it was observed that negotiators who intentionally incorporated silent pauses were more inclined to develop a contemplative frame of mind, enabling them to identify win-win situations.
Interestingly, the research also discovered that initiating silence didn’t lead to any negative perceptions from the other party. Contrary to the expectation that intentional silence might sour the relationship or make the interaction awkward, no such outcomes were observed. However, there was an exception: when there was a clear status difference between participants, and a lower-status negotiator (e.g., a candidate) introduced silence towards a higher-status participant (e.g., a recruiter), it didn’t produce positive outcomes.
Curhan emphasized that while their research highlighted the benefits of silence, they didn’t explore the specific words or body language used prior to these silent periods. The nuances of how silence is introduced, whether with a simple request for thinking time or just an abrupt pause, could have varying effects.
While the focus of the study was primarily transactional negotiations, Curhan suggests that the benefits of deliberate silence can extend beyond. Whether it’s a heated debate or a mere difference of opinions, introducing a pause can be a constructive strategy.
Curhan concludes, “Where there’s conflict, there’s always an avenue for resolution. Often, the breadth of potential agreement is underestimated. Our findings emphasize that embracing silence can be an ingenious way to view situations more comprehensively.”
*Original article sourced from MIT Sloan School of Management. https://mitsloan.mit.edu/ideas-made-to-matter/negotiation-use-silence-to-improve-outcomes-all*